Daily Gospel Reflection
THE NARROW WAY LEADS TO LIFE
Life often takes unexpected turns. It's a universal truth that grief and pain spare no one. And when they arrive, the resultant emotional trauma can last for months, even years. Betrayal, infidelity, deception, from those we trust and care about - can never be planned for, or anticipated.
Yet, these very traumatic experiences are also life's turning points. The experiences or the happening itself is not as important as your perceptions of it. The way you cope with what has happened is what makes the directions.
When such events occur, your minds and hearts become inundated with feelings of loss, helplessness and a sense of being defeated. If left unresolved, those traumatic experiences many suppress the body's inbuilt immune system, and leave you more vulnerable to illness and disease.
However, no incident or situation, no matter how bad it may look in its first moments, is final or fatal. No personal trauma or emotional setback is insurmountable. To overcome such a sudden and intense personal hurdle requires patience, understanding and , above all, an awareness that looks beyond the immediate to the larger picture.
Spiritually, all our problems and setback are merely lessons for us from life, acted out through people, events and places, and leading to our self-evolution. There are no full stops in life, only commas, And the sooner we learn our lessons, the faster our life moves forward in a more harmonious manner.
Here are certain steps that can be followed to make the path through the mental and emotional turbulence of a personal crisis smoother. First, accept the pain, and the mistakes and errors on your part. To prepare yourself mentally to meet the demands of stressful circumstances, you need to accept that your life has temporarily been turned upside down by the unforeseen traumatic event, and believe that opportunities for self-growth and lessons exist within the new circumstances.
Also believe that you can learn your lessons and grow to be a better, happier and more aware individual. Secondly, accept that the healing of grief and pain is a process that takes time. Each person experiences pain differently and reacts to different stimuli in different ways. But certain emotions felt as a result of a sudden traumatic event are common.
Denial, anger, fear and symptoms of depression such as sleep problems, loss of appetite, and difficulty in accomplishing daily tasks are stages that we all pass through. It's important to recognize that the mourning or recovering process takes time. Sometimes, it takes many months or more to pass through.
Thirdly, seek periods of solace and draw help from family and loved ones. Identify what feels best to you and for finding solace during times of grief. Spending time close to nature, or browsing through old letters and photos are all valid options.
The key is to do whatever allows you to express your grief with your loved ones. Researchers have repeatedly demonstrated a vital link between the strength of our social support systems and our emotional and physical resilience under severe personal stress.
Finally, work towards resolution of conflicts and issues. Usually, the reasons for our grief and pain are of our own making even though we cannot clearly see this while experiencing the trauma. The reasons for the crisis are possibly the results of our choices and decisions.
Remember, denial of the reasons cannot lead to healing or resolution. A clear understanding of the reasons, followed by acceptance, and a firm commitment for positive change is the answer. Prayer and meditation are very helpful tools to the tide over a personal crisis, they bring stability and allow inner cleansing.
A broken heart, if that's what you face, being emotional trauma, requires, much more care than a broken bone or any other physical ailment. Here are some practical tips to heal a broken heart. First the do's. Do stay calm and treat yourself gently. Do recognize and accept your injury. Do stay with the pain, do not deny it. Do take time to heal. Do accept comfort from family and loved ones. Do take care in making important decisions, and attempt to resolve the conflict.
And now the don'ts. Don't panic. Don't deny the hurt, or the mistakes. Don't dwell on the negatives, or stay isolated. Don't make choices, or decisions that create more chaos and pain. Don't fall into relationships on the rebound. Don't be afraid to admit your mistakes, or to ask for help. Above all, don't lose faith in God.